Insights from my conversation with ALOK on the evolving vision of Divine Fluidity I first reached out when I saw ALOK would be performing in Tacoma, WA. I wrote to their team asking if they’d be open to meeting to advise me on the next steps of my Divine Fluidity  body of work. I wasn’t expecting a response, honestly. But a few days later, their team replied: “Can you come to the green room before the show?” I was nervous because ALOK’s work has meant a lot to me. Their po

Lessons for Men & Boys It’s hard for me to let my work be what it needs to be, to just follow my curiosity without knowing exactly where it will lead. But it’s thanks to that trust in the process that Divine Fluidity found its way into Voice Male, one of the “OG” healthy masculinities magazines in the U.S., now run by Next Gen Men. I celebrate seeing queer beauty and wisdom centered in its pages, offering a gentle invitation for men to embrace the full spectrum of what it mea

A queer man’s reflection on fear, anger, and what becomes possible when men truly see one another with love. A few weeks ago, I boarded a plane and then drove three hours deep into the redwoods of Mendocino, CA to attend a men’s retreat. Not just any retreat, but one organized by Michael Meade (one of the fathers of the mythopoetic men's movement ) in a forest where men have been gathering for more than forty years. I wanted to be in the original space, the “OG” of men’s ret

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Just pause, and ask.

Here, you'll find reflections on what it means to lead, relate, and create beyond limiting binaries; the questions I’m holding in my consulting and accompaniment practice; queerness, belonging, and the creative possibilities of fluidity; and the more personal, poetic things: rituals, art, and other vessels for tenderness.